The cemetery of Christ Lutheran Church (what I’ve always called “Niantic”) will always be special to me (yes, this is a weird statement). It was in this cemetery 25 years ago that this genealogy obsession began: racing about with my uncle, 4th-grade composition notebook in hand, writing down the names and dates on every headstone bearing the name “Fox.”

Situated on Niantic Road in Barto, PA, amongst rolling farmland and an endless sky, it is now on the way to the home of the same uncle when we visit the area. But it’s been decades since we stopped by. This past August as I piloted the car, I felt compelled. We would be late to dinner, but I had to stop to visit the grave of John.

I could see in my mind where he and his parents are buried, at the back of the church, and strode that way confidently. Unthinking, my feet took me right to the back wall of the church where – of course, I realized – their gravestones were not. My feet or intuition or something had taken me to where they used to be buried, before the expansion of the building necessitated their move. A few paces away, I found their stones, but my amusement at being drawn to their former resting place melted into the deepest sadness as I found their stones. In an instant, I sat, and wept.

Of the thousands of gravestones I have stood before, I have never sat, and I certainly have not wept.

As my parents and brother walked up, I wondered aloud what curse must be upon this family. First, the patriarch Israel dies, and young John presumably took up arms in the Civil War in his father’s stead. Then his first day of battle becomes his last when he is beheaded by a cannonball. Interred with his father and later joined by his mother in the family church’s cemetery, the family is moved when the building expands many years later. At at some point, John’s headstone is struck by lightning not once, but twice, necessitating iron bars to hold it together.

And now, Israel’s stone has broken and fallen, and Catharina’s has been snapped off at the ground, likely caused by a careless landscaper. On top of this, the stones are so dreadfully worn since my last visit they are nearly entirely illegible.

This is why I do this work. It is inevitable that stones will become sand. Recollections will die. But if I can put these names and stories into black and white, and speak these names again, at least their memory can live in some way.

These are not the only broken or worn stones in the yard. Their stones are low quality sandstone and someday will crumble; that is inevitable. But their lives were so tumultuous. Why must their rest be?

My brother helped lift the heavy stones and we tried to re-place them in a more respectful manner. I aim to reach out to the church to see about what it would take to place a small, new marker at this plot so that their names, at least, are restored.

The photos below highlight the wear on the stones in the last two decades. Photos from my page about John and the Find-a-Grave listings for John, Israel, and Catharina just 10-15 years ago are much more legible.